New Years Resolutions

There are many core beliefs that western civilization is built upon.  One of the more well known is "Forgive and Forget".  Though noble in intent, I have come to believe that this notion contributes to why people fail to succeed in "New Years Resolutions" making.  Having to forgive implies something has, or is, occurring that requires your forgiveness and understanding.  Things happen, people make mistakes and forgiveness for that event is the right response.  But forget?   Some would say "Forgive and Get Even" or "Forgive and Remember".  These twists are no better, for their root lies in anger and revenge.  Very tough emotions to sustain and not consistent with healthy living.  I think it should be "Forgive and CHANGE".

Bad things happening, mistakes and accidents are a part of life.  So is failure.  If one forgives the cause of these events, accepts them for what they are, you are free to begin anew.  But if you "forget" the likelyhood of the same event reoccurring is quite high.  If on the other hand, YOU CHANGE something, at least there’s a chance for a better outcome the next time.  So as the New Year approaches and you prepare your resolutions, forgive yourself for the things you feel YOU need to resolve to change.  Truly and sincerely forgive.  And then YOU CHANGE, something, or else you will NEED the ability to forget.  Because YOU will be in the same spot again NEXT year.